What is Couples MediationTM?
Pro-Actively Work out the Issues Before You Get Married. Solve Relationship Issues and Reconcile rather than Divorce.
 For the prospective newly-weds, in a first or subsequent marriage, couples mediation provides a safe and neutral forum to discuss concerns and expectations. It also provide a method to reconcile differences and arrive at solutions through the assitance of the professional mediator. Save your relationship, reconcile and avoid divorce.
Divorce Mediation
No matter how heated the issues may seem now, 98% of all divorce cases in New Jersey end in a settlement.  Why not plan a strategy for what is 98% certain to occur?
If there is no reasonable prospect of reconciliation, discover how N.J. Divorce Mediation, recognized and supported by the Superior Court of New Jersey, can result in a successful divorce:
- Saves Money and Time - a process that is quicker and costs substantially less in both money and goodwill.
- A Civil Parting - participation in a fair process that ensures understanding, choice, and a result that statistically is unlikely to be brought back to court in post-divorce court motions;
- A Methodology and Forum - the mediation process promotes understanding, fair and equal bargaining power, and empowers the parties to know how resolve problems in the future without going to court;
- Fair and Reasonable - both parties equally contribute to the terms of the divorce so that it is fair and reasonable for their particular situation. Statistically, these cases never need judicial enforcement;
- An Agreed Upon Parenting Plan - that has the least impact on the children and respects the legitimate concerns of both parents;
- Privacy and Confidence - discussions with the divorce mediator about your finances, children or spouse cannot be used as evidence against either party or by third parties.
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Does Couples MediationTM Replace Therapy?
Couples MediationTM is not a replacement for family therapy because the goals of each are different. In some ways they appear similar in that both raise issues that need to be addressed. However, this is where the similarities end.
Therapy seeks to go to the root cause of why people feel the way they do. In this sense it seeks to fix the party so they feel better or normal.
Mediation leaves each person to decide when, how, or if at all, they plan to adress their personal issues. In some cases a person may decide to seek therapy to help with a particular issue that bothers them.
Rather than highlighting what is wrong with the person, Couples MediationTM assumes that this is what you have to work with: Can the relationship survive?. This focus raises the inequities felt in the relationship to help fix the relationship, not fix the partners.
 Compared to "counseling", men are more willing to particiapte because no one is faulted. The approach is positive and forward looking.
Typically, men react poorly to the suggestion of seeking "therapy" or "family counseling". They fear the goal is to "find their faults" or prove it was "his fault". Unlike therapy, men relate well to this approach because it seeks a "solution" to a happier and more satisfying relationship.
Women have commented that they appreciate the non-confrontational way their feelings, desires and wants can be discussed.
While no one is required to change, it will reveal what changes are needed. If the parties value and want to continue the relationship, they will understand what each expects from the other.
If the parties come to the conclusion that there is no hope for the relationship, divorce is simplified since the couple is now experienced with mediation and can pursue a meditated civil settlement rather than contested divorce litigation.
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